Spark One Another’s Brilliance
This past week was the concluding session in our second series of the Rare Mothers in Relationship Workshop. We took time to harvest some of the many gems that we’d gathered over the past few months.
Throughout the journey, we shared our hearts and forged lasting relationships with each other. We had incredible dialogues, the kind that happen in a space where you know you can trust each other. Wisdom and tenderness consistently poured forth while laughter, tears and compassion were a constant. We raised each other up and saw one another’s light.
The Journey
A relationship is a journey and along the way you will encounter blessings and challenges. You will have opportunities to move through an array of feelings as you problem solve and courageously meet what arises. As a Rare mother, you are accustomed to navigating a seemingly endless series of curve balls. Your relationships will support you if you tend to them.
Here are some gems to support your relationship journey:
Acceptance and Forgiveness which both help you to move through challenges with ease. Acceptance means you don’t identify the hard things as wrong.
Humor is an amazing ally for creating ease in stressful situations. Bringing humor in helps you not to take things so seriously and recognize that you are not in control. Humor opens you to the joy which is always there. It is up to you to seek it and it's easy to forget that it is tucked away in every corner.
Be curious, question your assumptions, and lean into fear when it arises. When you do, you will encounter the inherent divinity that lives within you and is utterly trustworthy. Beware of fear, often masked by doubt, is the mind trying to avoid feeling what seems unbearable. Remember, feelings are temporary. What lives within you doesn’t come and go. It is a matter of discovering it more deeply and aligning with it from moment to moment.
Be vulnerable and model transparency. Remember, vulnerability is a skill and not a liability. Be discerning about how much you share, when, and with whom. Listen inside and trust yourself.
Make clear agreements to support clarity in your family and relationship. One foundational agreement you may choose to make is to Pause. Slow down and assess both your capacity and your partner’s. By recognizing and honoring one another’s capacity, you may avoid unnecessary conflict and disappointment.
Cheer each other on! Spark each other‘s brilliance! Let your relationship serve to set your life on fire and remember to look for the good. Connect with those who fan the flames of your brilliance and return the favor.
Last but not least, Tend to yourself. Take little moments to nourish yourself with a walk, a healthy meal, a few minutes of stretching or meditation. Remember, self-care is at the root of self-compassion. Be generous with yourself and practice this often. How we treat ourselves is how we treat others and the primary relationship is the one you have with yourself.
Coming Up This Week: Beginning Again!
This Tuesday we begin a new series of our workshop and we would love to have you there. No preparation is needed. We will spend this first session introducing ourselves and reflecting on what is already working in our relationships. Please join us.
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We look forward to being with you soon.
Warmly,
Padma
