Tapping Racquets
Padma Gordon
Each meeting of our Rare Mothers in Relationships Workshop seems to take us deeper and this one was no different. This week we talked about commitment. We examined how truly committed we are in our partnerships. We also asked the question, “Can I receive what is being offered? And if not, what is in the way?“
Consider how you show your commitment in your relationship. Where are you open and where are you blocking?
Commitment is a container that holds you.
Within your container, it is important to have agreements. For instance, you might have agreements regarding how you communicate with one another.
Here are some of the agreements that were shared:
We don’t have hard talks after 8 PM.
We don’t use the words always and never.
We check in and ask: is now an okay time to talk?
We offer kindness whenever possible.
We make our best effort to receive what our partner has to offer and appreciate it.
We share things that are triggering rather than contracting and going into a withhold.
We look for the right time to bring things up.
We repair quickly after an argument.
These agreements help support the connection you share with your partner. They help you to stay connected. You might also make agreements around tending to each other such as:
We call each other at least once a day.
We are generous with each other. We do things like bring each other cups of tea and treats.
We laugh at one another’s jokes even when we don’t find them all that funny.
We make the effort to enjoy our time together after the kids are in bed.
We remind each other to be grateful that our children are alive.
We do these things because we care and we are on the same team. When you’re on the same team you celebrate the little things that you do together, the ways you support your Rare child. You pat each other on the back and you tap rackets just like you might do in a tennis game. You are each other’s biggest cheerleader!
Coming Up This Week: Forgiveness
Forgiveness is essential if you want to have a healthy relationship. We will inquire into the value of forgiveness together. Sometimes forgiving your partner can be hard and it’s totally worth it. You are worth it.
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We would love to meet you and offer our support to you and your family. This is an opportunity to come together with other Rare Mothers in an intimate setting. There are Rare Mothers who are at the beginning of their journey and others who are at the end. We are a wise community of women who meet on Tuesday mornings at 10am PST. Please join us anytime.
