An Evolutionary Journey
Padma Gordon
This week in our Rare Mothers in Relationships Workshop we looked at evolution and how your relationship can support your personal evolution.
Our journal prompt was:
How is your relationship evolutionary? What do you bring to support this?
Here are some of the answers we came up with:
I bring loving presence
I am disciplined in the face of my own reactivity
I take responsibility for my part in our dynamic
I am patient and understanding
I curb my judgments and offer compassionate
I am mindful and have agency over how I relate to others
I focus on divinity when things become overwhelming
In order to implement these things, you need to practice. Set your intention and align with it. Take moments to check in with yourself and notice if your actions are aligned with your direction for who you want to be in your relationship. It’s just like if you are driving from New York to visit family in Florida and you find yourself heading north toward Massachusetts, you are off course and need to turn the car around. Pausing is an invitation to "turn around."
Awareness
Being in an evolutionary relationship takes a lot of awareness. It means that you prioritize your relationship and you spend time taking care of yourself so that you can be present and available when you interact with your partner.
As you journey through the holidays and perhaps spend time with your family of origin, there will be many joyful moments and most likely some challenges too.
Remember that you and your partner are a team.
Practice
You can practice these relating skills with your relatives even if they are projecting the past onto you or simply not listening, you can show up present and committed to kindness.
Coming Up: Humor Is Key
In this week’s workshop, we will explore the value of humor can bring to any relationship. Laughter can lighten a tense moment and revitalize you when you are feeling down. Bringing a sense of humor and willingness to laugh at yourself, rather than take yourself seriously has many benefits.
Join Us
Maybe you’re reading this blog post and haven’t yet been able to carve out the time to come to one of these workshops. If so, you are welcome to join us for the next series which begins 0n January 4th. There will be old and new participants and it will be a wonderful group. We are excited to meet you!
Come as you are. Your presence is a contribution.
Receive Support
We would love to meet you and offer our support to you and your family. This is an opportunity to come together with other Rare Mothers in an intimate setting. There are Rare Mothers who are at the beginning of their journey and others who are at the end. We are a wise community of women who meet on Tuesday mornings at 10am PST.
Register to join here.
