A Little Kindness Goes a Long Way...
Padma Gordon
In this workshop, we talk about what it's like to be a Rare Mother in a Relationship. There are unique relationship gifts, challenges and pressures for Rare mothers and this is a place to explore them.
The first thing that is needed in a relationship is a sense of belonging. There is a line from a verse on Belonging by John O’Donohue that goes like this “turn your kindness within.” When you do this, you have more kindness to offer your partner and your Rare child.
Relationships that have kindness as the foundation will thrive.
What does kindness look like? It might look like listening to your partner talk about the basketball game or tell a story that they’ve told for the twenty-fifth time. Or perhaps it means laughing at the same old joke over and over? Kindness may also mean that you choose to be “a little bit deaf.” You let things go rather than getting your feathers ruffled.
Being kind also means not expecting to get everything you need from one person. Instead of putting pressure on your partner, try one of these:
Call an old friend
Take the time to meditate and pray
Do something creative like draw, dance or write
Cuddle up with a good book and enter into someone else’s world
Be curious
Connect with your childlike sense of wonder
As a Rare mother, you have a ton of responsibility and every decision around your child’s health is a big one. Each has a consequence and your job is to do your research, listen inside, be discerning and choose a path. Trust yourself and your partner.
Take time to have the important conversations and flush out places where you are unclear or afraid. Validate your partner’s concerns and invite them to return the favor. Take action when your partner has a concern and put time and resources to support them. By doing this, you let your partnership serve your whole family.
Join Us
We would love to meet you and offer our support to you and your family. This is a precious opportunity to come together with other Rare mothers in an intimate setting. We meet on Tuesday mornings at 10am PST. Come as you are. Drop-in anytime. You are welcome.
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Looking forward to being together soon.
