Self-Asses With Kindness
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The focus in our Rare Family Dynamics group this week was "the places we go to self-assess.” We explored how to accurately self-assess, and how bringing kindness and curiosity helps us to know what is actually happening versus what we may imagine which is often inaccurate.
No big deal
For many raregivers, it's very common to have a challenge receiving compliments. Maybe you find yourself blocking when people thank you for things and saying, "no big deal.”
As a raregiver, you have a huge amount of responsibility and probably by 10 o'clock in the morning you have done 20 things. Sometimes this comes with anxiety and the thought that maybe even though you've done the task 100 times before you won't be able to do it this time. This is incredibly stressful.
It's OK to say No
Just because you can do something doesn't mean that you should be the one to do it. It's really important to check in with yourself and see if what you are doing is something that you can delegate.
Receive, receive, receive
Receiving what it is that you do is epic! Often you may think to yourself what you're doing is just the status quo – you did what was needed because you had to. As a raregiver, you don't have a lot of choice because you have to show up for your Rare child.
Receiving practice
You are invited to set a timer for three minutes after you eat lunch and write down a list of everything you've done and it's only lunchtime! Once you've written your list, read it out loud to yourself. Take it in. Receive...
We did this practice in our group this week, and we were amazed by how many things we had done and it wasn't even noon. Try it and see. Feel free to send us a note through Mighty Networks and let us know what you discovered.
Take the time to receive what you are doing because otherwise you might think it's nothing. The reality is, it's not nothing. It's only nothing when you don't acknowledge it.
When you self-assess, be curious and kind.🙏💗🙏
Coming up this week: The Places We Go with Others
The natural place for most of us to go with others is sympathy or empathy. These can quickly move into compassion or pity. Yet, the place many of us struggle with is appropriate boundaries. Understanding ourselves with these emotions, gives us the insights to set boundaries for ourselves more easily. Come define what those might look like for you in the safety of our Tuesday morning group.
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