I am Enough

Padma Gordon

This week in our Rare Mothers in Relationships Workshop we explored acceptance. Acceptance begins with you accepting yourself. Acceptance is different than resignation and a big piece to accept is the unknown. There are so many unknowns that you face in your role as a Rare Mother like: Will this treatment help? How long will my child be alive? Will I be able to secure the help I need to support my child? The list goes on.

Acceptance also means accepting your child’s capacity as well as your own and your partner’s. You are all doing your best. If you could do something differently, you would.

One of our Rare Mothers came up with a great practice for accepting your child’s capacity.

Sit down.

Clear your head.

Stop comparing your child’s abilities with those of other kids.

Except that your child is joyful as they are.

I you can apply this practice to your child, partner or to yourself.

Understanding that each person has a certain capacity is essential in the practice of acceptance.

Interrupt the shoulds. Be kind to yourself. Giving yourself grief and tearing yourself down is unhelpful.

Receiving: I Am Enough

Receive what you are doing. Receive how you are showing up. Receive that whatever you are able to do is enough. You are enough. You might practice using the phrase, “I am enough” every day. Write it on a note and post it on your refrigerator. I have a sticker in my shower that reminds me that “I am enough” every day. Seeing it every day is a form of positive self-hypnosis.

Coming up this week: The We

Being a We is essential if you want to have a thriving relationship. When you are living inside of a We, you feel like someone has your back and like your needs and desires matter. You offer this to each other which creates a space where both partners can relax and trust. 

We will discuss the value of being a We in this week’s workshop.

Receive Support and Connect

We would love to meet you and offer our support to you and your family. This is a precious opportunity to come together with other Rare Mothers in an intimate setting. There are Rare Mothers who are at the beginning of their journey and others who are at the end. It’s a rich and wise community of women. We meet every Tuesday morning at 10am PST. Drop-in anytime. You are welcome.

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