A Bridge to Forgiveness
Forgiveness begins with forgiving yourself. It is much like a cleanse which supports you to release toxins that may be blocking your flow. Forgiveness makes space for generous loving in your relationships.
Forgiveness was the topic of our conversation this week in the Rare Mothers in Relationships Workshop. The group is rich and new members are joining weekly. It’s a gift to facilitate and bear witness to the amazing Rare mothers in our community.
Here is some of the wisdom that was shared.
One thing that came up was how self-forgiveness is an antidote to worrying about the future and trying to control the unknown. We often fall into the realm of should and could which ties us to judgment.
Judgment creates separation when what most of us want is connection.
Another theme was forgiving your Rare child for being who they are.
Have you forgiven your child for having a Rare disease? What if you recognized that they are doing their best and you could say, “You’re doing your best buddy.“
Can you forgive yourself for your ablest responses?
Can you forgive your child’s caregivers for not knowing how to care for them even after many years?
We all fall into judgment at times. What if you forgave yourself for judging others and making assumptions about people? A limiting belief that came up in this context was imagining others will fail you and that you will repeatedly be disappointed. Does this resonate with you? Are you willing to recognize that everyone is doing their best, including you?
Whatever you are doing and who you are being is enough.
Susie, one of our group members, came up with a four-step framework which bridges forgiveness and creativity which feels useful. When you make room, your creativity can bubble up and you will likely find new solutions to perplexing situations.
The Steps:
The first step is awareness.
The second is acceptance.
The third is forgiveness.
All of this opens you to creativity and acts as a bridge to unconditional love.
Take time each day to forgive yourself for the little things, otherwise they will add up. Forgiveness is an avenue to peace and freedom.
Coming Up This Week: Vulnerability
As a Rare Mother, you are familiar with vulnerability. Each day contains moments of tender vulnerability for you and your child. When you share your tenderness and show the parts of you that may feel unworthy, it invites intimacy. When we share what’s true in our hearts, we heal. In this incredible community of Rare Mothers, it is safe to be vulnerable.
Join us
Our next meeting is Tuesday at 10 AM PST. We would love to have you there. Being together in a safe and held space is an opportunity for you to share your heart and make authentic connections with other Rare mothers.
Come as you are. Your presence is a contribution.
Zoom Link:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89479806881?pwd=NkdlU1dDVVRQYTcxem9MaVlQRG95Zz09
We look forward to being with you soon.
Warmly,
Padma
