Rest In Your heart

Our Self-Care Tuesdays Workshop this week focused on "the places we go when we are hurting.”  The life of a raregiver holds an inordinate amount of hurt, and there are so many flavors of it. Sometimes you may experience it as sadness, grief, anguish, hopelessness, or despair. They may seem like the same thing, and yet they are different. No matter the flavor of the emotion, pause and feel it.

Trust your heart

When you are experiencing difficult emotions, you have the option of resting into the vast space of your own heart. Trust that your heart will welcome all of your feelings. Sometimes it's hard to allow yourself to feel all of these feelings because you may wonder if you will drown in them. Trust you will not.

Give yourself space, breathe, relax back into your heart and allow its wings of love to surround you. Welcome the challenging feelings and the good ones. 

Steadiness

Sometimes you will get frustrated with your family, especially if you have teenagers. The best course of action is to remain steady and be present with the frustration before you speak. 

Let yourself feel your frustration before you interact. If you push down your feelings, they will leak out in inappropriate ways. Digest your feelings and then you'll be able to respond with care.

Moving it through

There are many ways that you can move your feelings through and one of the best ones is to turn on music and dance. Your family might even join you!

Show your vulnerability

Remember that showing your feelings to your Rare child or children is a gift. Surrender the idea that "you have to have it all together." Show your vulnerable side. By doing this, you are letting them know that it is OK to have feelings, and that all feelings will pass.

If you shut down your feelings, it will inherit you from having the hard and deep conversations. And you want to have these. Hard conversations when handled with grace, lead to deeper connections.

Be patient

Cultivate patience with yourself, and with the people you love. Remember it's not about you or your goals necessarily, sometimes it's about other people's abilities and needs.

Be in service

As a raregiver, you are in service to other people much of the time. What if you choose to be in-service to yourself? Put yourself on your priority list. You matter.

Coming Up Next Week: The Places we Go When Things Don’t Go as Planned

The paradox of living is feeling like if we have things planned out, we can just possibly avoid anything uncomfortable. Somehow we have convinced ourselves this just might work. But when it doesn’t it can bring up frustration, disappointment, regret and even resignation. This can be a calling to a new place of acknowledgement, expectation or even imagination, if we let it. Come explore the flexibility and freedom that are possible when things don’t go as planned.

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