Navigating the Storm of Painful Emotions

Emotions, like sudden storms, can sweep over us with intensity, catching us off guard even on the brightest of days. These powerful emotional surges can feel overwhelming, leaving us struggling to pinpoint their origin. While emotions often arise in response to experiences or thoughts, uncovering the specific trigger can be challenging when we're engulfed by the wave of feeling. 

Emotions are complex, often arising in reaction to various stimuli, both external and internal. They can be influenced by past experiences, subconscious beliefs, and even our physical well-being. This complexity can make it difficult to discern the root cause when a surge of painful emotion engulfs us and make us feel unpredictable.

Self-inquiry is a powerful tool for understanding and managing emotions. When you find yourself grappling with intense feelings, take a moment to pause and breathe. Then, gently ask yourself, "What experience or thought triggered this emotion?

It’s helpful to identify the experience, first. Consider if there was a recent event or interaction that may have sparked the emotion. It could be a conversation, a situation at work, or a memory resurfacing. Once you’ve done this, next allow yourself to explore your thoughts… Delve into your thought patterns. Were there specific thoughts or beliefs that preceded the emotional response? These thoughts often hold the key to understanding the trigger.

Sometimes, emotions are linked to past experiences that have left a lasting impact. Reflecting on whether the current emotion might be connected to a similar situation from your past can be insightful. And, also, remember that physical factors like fatigue, hunger, or illness can influence your emotional state. It allows you to be more gentle with yourself if you take these into account when exploring the cause.

Asking yourself about the trigger of your emotions cultivates self-awareness. This awareness not only helps you understand the root causes of your feelings but also empowers you to respond to them more effectively. This simple yet profound practice can help you navigate the stormy seas of your emotions with greater clarity, resilience, and compassion for yourself and others.


In exploration,

Pamela


Cristol O'Loughlin

Cristol Barrett O’Loughlin is a seasoned executive and storyteller. As Founder and CEO of Raregivers™ (formerly ANGEL AID), Cristol is fiercely passionate about providing social, emotional, physical and financial relief to Raregivers™ ~ patients, caregivers, and professionals who hold both hope and grief in the same human heart. A former UCLA instructor, she co-founded advertising firm, The Craftsman Agency, and is humbled to have advised global brands such as NBA, Walt Disney Company, 20th Century Fox, Microsoft, Cisco and Google. During her tenure at IBM Life Sciences, she helped accelerate advancements in cheminformatics and data-driven biotechnology. Watch her TEDx talk ‘Caring for the Caregivers’ at https://www.raregivers.global/tedx and the ‘Raregivers LIVE’ broadcast from Microsoft to 12 cities around the world.

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