Four Seasons of commitment
Commitment is a structure that holds you in your relationship. We discussed the power of commitment in our Rare Mothers in Relationship Workshop this past week. We contemplated the question, what are you committed to in your relationship?
As a Rare mother, you are familiar with plans that do not turn out the way you had imagined, and since you know this, what if you commit to the person, rather than the plan? Love your partner for who they are, rather than the person you want them to be which is a practice of accepting your partner as they are.
Another commitment might be to use these statements, I am, You are, He is and so on. One of our Rare mothers reminded us of the power of using “I am” statements. What you proclaim, you will become. If you practice saying “I am grateful,“ you will become a grateful person.
By using these statements, you are committing to what you want rather than what you don't want and you create your internal reality.
Seasons
We talked about tending to the tree of your relationship. Trees have seasons as do relationships. When you stay committed to tending to your relationship throughout the seasons, be it spring with her beautiful blossoms, winter with its bare and broken branches, or in the fall when your tree may need pruning. The tree of your relationship thrives when you commit to being there throughout all four seasons regardless of their sweetness.
Forgiveness
Last but not least is to forgive yourself and your partner which will make life sweeter and get you through hard times.
This is a list of some of what helps to maintain your commitments that you may find useful:
Setting goals
Creating a work life balance
Spending time in silence
Keeping your heart open
Listening simply to listen rather than with the intent of responding
Being curious and asking open ended questions
Remembering to soften
Recognizing the goodness in your life
Coming up this week: TEAM PLAY!
Come explore what it takes to be a great team. You and your partner can learn to team play to your next level which supports you as a couple and as a family. Come and share your wisdom and bring your curiosity.
Join us
Our next meeting is on Tuesday at 10 AM PST. We would love to have you there. Being together in this way is an opportunity for you to share your heart and have authentic connections with other Rare mothers who know what it’s like to walk in your shoes.
Come as you are. Your presence is a contribution.
